给女儿和女婿的祝词

我家二小姐昨天出阁，热闹过后心里洋溢着一阵谈谈的哀愁，乃到户外吹风接近大自然，想到这何尝不就是人生？回来就把昨晚在婚宴上的讲话放上网，似乎在追求另一种寄托。

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Iskandar Putri区巴哈伊社团的代表Mr Hua Keng Tong，华景同先生，各位来自远北马、吉隆坡、新加坡、台湾、上海和柔佛新山一带的亲戚朋友们，我是今晚新娘子李施谚语的父亲，欢迎大家在百忙中抽空前来，参加今晚施谚和家荣的婚礼，我也想趁这个机会讲一点儿心里的话。为了节省大家的时间，我已经把讲稿写好了，现在就让我把它念出来。

首先，我想说的得是，今天这个良辰美景，2023年6月25日，对家荣和施谚来说，是一个难忘的日子，这是他们的人生路上的一个标杆，一个转折点。这个日子已经写在他们的结婚证书上。那是一份合约、一个承诺、一个奉献，也是一个家庭的法律基础。刚才大家还见证了他们在上天前面的宣誓，宣誓的内容只有简单的一句：“诚然，我们都服从于上天的意愿。”这是说，在未来的漫长的日子里，彼此之间要是出现意见上的分歧，要懂得放下自己的成见，以上天的更高的标准为依归，这是确保家庭团结的灵性基础，也是非常重要的一环。

看见大家今天晚上那么热烈，我这里讲的是理性的一面，家庭是感性和理性的融合。各位的热情参与，给他们两位增添了几许美好的回忆。在他们未来的日子里，每当想起今天，尤其是今天晚上宴会的一幕，一定不会忘记你们。因为你们的到来，给他们的回忆增添了几许甜蜜和温馨的滋味。

作为施谚的父亲，我和我的伙伴都很高兴见到她找到了自己的终身伴侣，并在今天组织自己的家庭，开启一段新的人生旅程，我们也由此放下一桩心事。自由恋爱是他们的自由和权利，我们除了鼓励没有加以干涉。我相信他们在多年的交往中，已经充分了解彼此的性格和思想感情，在各方面都能互相接受和忍让，彼此也非常了解未来的挑战是很大的，但是心灵的团结可以克服一切。我们都非常同意他们的这一桩婚事，并给以充分的支持和最衷心的祝贺。

随着这一桩婚事今天终于顺利完成，我们也结识了女婿方的亲家，很高兴能够跟你们结为亲属，在近期内一定要找一个机会好好拜访你们，以便熟悉你们的生活。也希望施谚将来在彭家的生活过得幸福美满，跟岳父母和兄弟姐妹们亲如自己的兄弟姐妹，融洽相处，互相包容。

我们那个年代的婚礼，通常是由父母主导、安排，我自己的也是这样。我很高兴看到施谚和家荣，能够根据自己喜欢的方式，安排婚礼的各方面事宜，这个婚礼是属于他们的，我们长辈只是参与和提供意见，整个安排都非常顺畅。将来，在人生的路上，希望他们也能以这个方法和态度来克服各种问题，这样，任何难题都是可以迎刃而解的。施谚从小有独立的性格，做事也考虑周全。这是她的优点，希望她保持这样的纯真。她在小学和宽柔中学那段日子是非常快乐的，希望快乐之神在未来的新时代，也能够继续伴随着他。

这次婚礼最令我动容的一件事，是施谚的姐姐Shirin李湘凡和妹妹Neda李欣庭特别为她创作了一首歌，并在今天晚上给来宾们呈现，由她们演唱和伴奏，我在这里恭喜他们演奏如此成功，赚了不少眼泪。这首歌写尽他们之间走过的欢乐时光，撰写歌词可谓绞尽脑汁，构思旋律也费尽心思，他们在很短的时间内练唱和弹奏，要给她们的妹妹和姐姐一个额外的惊喜。这个事件显示她们姐妹之间关系非常融洽亲密，也给父母很大的安慰。希望未来的日子里，这种美好的感情能够天长地久地维持下去。

最后，我希望施谚和家荣的新家庭是一个开放的家庭，关心并参与当地社区的活动，经常接受客人的访问，善待所有的邻里、宾客，为建立美好社会做出贡献。谢谢大家。

（2023年6月25日）

(The speaker, who is the father of the bride thanked the Baha’i representative Mr Hua Keng Tong and guests, who came from the North, Kuala Lumpur, Singapore, Shanghai, Taiwan and JB local for their attendance and their offering of gifts. He mentioned that it was an unforgettable moment for the couple for the date has been written down on their marriage certificate which is a binding document that provides the legal foundation for the new family. It is also a token of love and responsibility and when they recalled this day in the future they will remember all those who had presence and that will certainly bring them joy and happiness. 

He said that the guests have just witnessed the taking of Baha’i Vow by the couple and that is a spiritual law. In the future should there be any different of ideas and viewpoints they are urged to follow the principles of God instead and should belief that it was a correct guidance.   

He congratulated the new couple for have chosen their partners out of their own choices.  The parents were happy that they have familiarized with each other’s character and consented with the wedding ceremony to carry out today and gave them their heartiest congratulations and wishes.

He said that he was happy to get to know the in-law’s family and their wider circle of relatives.  He said he will visit them in the near future in order to know each other more. He hoped that his daughter will get along with the in-law’s family in perfect harmony in the future.

He said he was happy to see that instead of the parent taking the main role the wedding affairs was fully arranged by the couple themselves and they chose the way how it is going to be conducted. It was truly an event for them. The parents were informed and consulted on major issues only. He said that this was a spirit of cooperation and hopefully it will last forever in their future life.

He said that he was moved to mention that Leva’s sisters, Shirin and Neda had composed a sentimental song themselves and presented it to their sister on this occasion. In this song they reflected the happy memories of their childhood days. It was a 5-minutes song with the lyrics and music sang and played by them and had successfully presented it before the audience as they all had just witnessed. Congratulations for their performance. It gave the parents a great deal of consolation for it reflected the harmonious relationship between the sisters. 

Lastly he hoped that the new family will always open their home to the community and friends and welcome all goodwill visitors and that they will involve in activities pertaining to social building thus contributing their effort to the wellbeing of mankind.)       

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感谢各地朋友的贺词，也祝愿天下儿女有情人终成眷属，结婚宜趁早，不要犹豫不决。毕竟，一加一不等于二，单身损失更大，婚姻的百般折磨好过单身孤独的快乐。